Most people have had experiences debating and arguing with other people and knowing that because of the way the other person chooses to discuss and argue there is no chance for a logical and reasonable conversation to occur. There are a lot of people in the world whose emotions get the best of them and find themselves in debates and arguments that involve shouting, slamming doors, passive-aggressive behavior like the silent treatment, shutting down, name-calling, and even withholding sex. According to some, these are a few of the most common ways that debates and arguments happen for many couples.
The focus of these responses is generally, consciously or subconsciously, designed to punish a partner. Unfortunately, they are more damaging to relationships in the long run and often do not solve a relationship problem, but instead create additional problems. Everybody loses, nobody wins, and more often than not behaviors circle back and happen over and over again.
People that are bad at communicating and do not fight fairly when it comes to debating and arguing with their partner can, in fact, improve if they are motivated. It is hard to date people that show these signs, so unless they are motivated to continue to improve their communication, it may be time to reevaluate the relationship.
Expressing a need in a reasonable way and practicing healthy communication and problem-solving is completely legitimate. It is always a good idea to give the people you care about a chance to say what they need to and work to improve.
From a phone dating perspective, people who shout, give silent treatment, avoid phone calls because of an argument, and call people names, will give others second thoughts about whether to jump into an in-person date. Many people would just hang up the phone, and if the other person can’t make it through an entire phone call without exhibiting behaviors like these, maybe they should.
